How to forget

You don't. Forgetting the pain that a parent caused you is as impossible as forgetting that you have hands and feet. Once the pain has infiltrated the confines of your soul it's there to stay. You have choices though......

Identifying the pain is the easiest and hardest. Sometimes what you can feel is not the same as what you can express. So expression of pain is one of the hard things to get over. If you express it too much then you become bitter and hardened and the pain has caused you to turn on yourself.

It's okay to cry and it's okay to shout. It's okay to state the obvious and it's okay to be quiet. It's not okay though to turn it on yourself. You are a child, you were a child. It's the parental responsibility and should be the parental joy to be the protector not the actor who perpetuates the pain. The parent is meant to love; unconditionally, without end and without self-ism or bitterness. The parent is the sole protector and guider of the child and the parent must in all stages of life consider the child.

Rev. Sun Moon put it well "That love cannot be controlled by a husband and a wife. In its presence, you don't have free choice to act according to your own will. You cannot abandon it whenever you don't feel like carrying it. It is impossible to cut it off. There's no way to touch it through the horizontal bond. That's why parental love is absolutely unchanging."